It’s still weird
for me to acknowledge the fact that I live in Spain. It’s almost November, so I’m
approaching the two month mark. Part of it is my life here isn’t “permanent.” Even
though I have a paying job, an apartment, and I cook for myself, all hallmarks
of post-grad life, it doesn’t feel quite real. I think a large part is that
since we were kids we’ve been told the script of our lives:
1. Do
well in school
(In order to)
2. Get
into a good university
(In order to)
3. Get
a good job
(So you can)
4. Provide
for your kids
(So they can)
5. Repeat
the cycle
Maybe this isn’t the
exact plan that everyone gets pressured to do, but I think so much of we do is
based on delayed gratification, which I’m not necessarily against. I see wisdom
in saving money, planning ahead, making sacrifices now to benefit in the
future. It’s a solid principle (especially in lieu of the other extreme of “my
way, right now”); however I’m definitely feeling the dissonance when that principle
becomes so rigid. When everything you do is for a future that you may or may
not ever reach, when you start defining worth and value based on a completion
date. The whole, “I’ll finally be happy when I finish my degree, when I have
this many kids, when I get this rank at my job.” You can start to see identity
and worth get redefined by what you’ve done instead of who you are.
|
Almuñecar |
Anyways all that is to
say, I’m starting to build my life here, which is why I haven’t been writing as
much, I’ve just been focused on living. Unfortunately
I’ve slipped into living for future. “When
I finally get my internet, then I‘ll be settled. When I get paid then I can
enjoy myself. When I can speak better Spanish then I’ll try to make more
friends. When Raices starts then I’ll be more involved with the community.” And while those things are important, I don’t
need them to feel settled. I’m already here.
So
some things I have done. Two weeks ago I went to Almuñecar, 1.5 hrs from
Granada, with some American girls from my church; super impromptu and
completely worth it. The day started cloudy but by the time we reached the sea
rays had broken through and unveiled the different shades of blue and teal of
the Mediterranean. We had 2nd
breakfast at this café on the boardwalk and then finally moseyed down to the
beach. Instead of sand, the shore was made up of little pebbles. They were
perfect for skipping stones; oval and flat.
We spent a good portion of our time climbing this large rock/cliff that
overlooked the bay and hanging out on top just enjoying the view. We wanted to cliff dive but the wind was a just
bit much so we settled with a polar plunge by taking a running start from the
beach. It only took a minute or two for
my body to go numb and then it felt glorious. I swam watching the colors shift as I crossed
depths. So so incredible and so much fun.
|
Chelsi, Cathy, Lorena, and me |
The next weekend amigos
from my teaching program came and visited! Unfortunately it drizzled and rained
most of the weekend so the beauty of Granada wasn’t quite on display. But we met up with the other participants in
town and went for tapas. It was surprisingly refreshing to be around so many
familiar faces. I think my favorite part
of the weekend was when we ended up in this 50s/60s themed bar. The illustrations on the wall were so fun: go-go
girls, slicked hairstyles and winged sunglasses, old magazine covers with
completely antiquated language. I loved
the break from passing bars that were blasting club songs to hearing music
where dancing the twist was applicable. And dance we did.
As for during my weeks:
I enrolled into a Spanish course, Tuesdays and Thursdays from 6pm-9pm; long but
worth it. My professor focuses a lot on how to sound like a native when
constructing sentences and using colloquial phrases. She has this whole philosophy
about how she doesn’t teach rules of language because people blindly follow
them rather than thinking about how language works. So she says she teaches the mechanisms of
language instead, a bit Dead
Poets Society but I think she’s onto something. Now I understand the
grammar so much more even if I can’t produce it perfectly. Plus unlike my
Spanish course at CLIC there’s only one other American in my class. We have
students from Germany, France, Syria, Luxemburg, Canada, and Brazil. So our
common language is Spanish, which helps deter me from resorting to English.
|
Luismi, Sarah, and me |
Wednesdays I tend to go
to a bible study and Fridays are hang out/cultural nights. Yesterday we had an
open mike night and people played instruments, rapped, sang, and recited poems
in English, Spanish, and Romanian, plus some dancing. Another Friday we explored
the area around the Alhambra (gorgeous at night) and hung out in a teteria (tea
shop) afterwards. But don’t let me fool you, my weeks may sound filled, but I
still find plenty of time to waste watching TV, wandering around the center
window shopping, laying in my bed, or on
the more productive side find new places to hang out with Noemi (Jazz Café ftw!)
I may or may not be
seriously considering renewing my contract for another year. Part of me says
one year is enough then I need to start looking at “real” jobs, but then the
other part of me says this is a “real” job.
Plus with two years of living here my Spanish will be better, I’ll have
better friendships, and more life experience whether that’s teaching ESL,
working with kids, or (hopefully) a better understanding of the direction/arc I
want to pursue. Just some thoughts. But
for now I’m trying not to let my circumstances dictate my mood. If I’m waiting
for something, I won’t hold my breath; there are other things to experience
even with deadlines loom in the distance.